*Warning* This is a bit of a heavy post and may trigger memories of assault.
I don’t know if any of you guys saw the video I shared on the Facebook page a few days ago, but it stirred something in my soul. To paraphrase, a popular vlogger was facing heat for standing up to a man who had been making unwanted sexual advances online. She drove home that a woman standing up for herself against unwanted advances is neither wrong nor unkind. (Obviously, she said a lot more things worth hearing and I would highly encourage you all to take a listen.)
In that light, I am hoping today that you can hear me when I say that it is a lie that Christian woman should be meek, timid, and not make waves in this world. While I do believe in God’s view of submission in marriage, I do not for a second buy into the thought that the Christian woman should be anything less than powerful and fearless.
I believe with all my heart that God gifted women with the ability to be both quietly reflective and submissive and fearlessly powerful. When you allow yourself to buy into the lie that as a Christian woman you should be seen and not heard you are allowing a dumpster fire to ravage the power that God has given you the freedom to claim.
…God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.2 Timothy 1:7
When God knit you together He gave you the freedom to be fearless and powerful and the rights to both love yourself and to control your own actions without being controlled.
In any situation where you may find yourself without the ability to grasp control, YOU ARE NOT TO BLAME. I do not wish to imply that the key to finding yourself out of such situations is as simple as powering up and walking away. It usually isn’t. Instead, I want you to stop and remember that God has given you are a spirit of power. You have the right to love yourself and the freedom to believe you are powerful, precious and valuable. Well finding the exit hatch on abusive situations isn’t cinch, it is a whole heck of a lot easier if you are able to grasp your worth and know your power.
If you have been a friend on this blog for a while you know that I have a love affair with Queen Esther. The bible is filled with women of power just like her; Ruth, Sarah, Mary, Miriam to name a few. Each one of them called on God to crush their fears and give them the courage to be powerful when the moment came.
Personally, I grew up believing the lie that good Christian girls should be nothing more than sweet and quiet, hiding proverbs in their heart and not partaking in any rocking of boats or attention drawing. At age 14, with that lie ever present in my mind, I had the misfortune of finding myself in my first sexual assault experience. I had to get a routine eye exam with an optometrist I hadn’t seen before and he assaulted me in the exam room while my mom waited outside. I had never felt so powerless in my life. I have to add that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt I was a victim and I am not victim shaming myself or others, BUT my heart of hearts wishes that I had known with every fiber of my being that I was allowed to be powerful and fearless and make waves that day.
With that in mind, I often look at my two daughters and pray that they have the power, courage, and dignity to stand up for themselves if they are ever caught in a situation they don’t want to be in. I want to be a part of raising the next generation of Christian women who know their worth and know that they can be fearless in the power of Christ.
Friends, I know this is a bit of a heavy topic but I KNOW that there are those of you who sit day after day feeling trapped in situations that you don’t deserve to be in. My prayer for you today is that you realize that you have more God-given power inside of you than you probably allow yourself to realize. The God that has numbered the hairs on your head made you stronger than you know.
Make the waves ladies. Be powerful. Be fearless. You are worth it.
If you need prayer let me know.